
The famous Dr. Phil has said, "You don't solve money problems with money." In other words, it's a behavior problem, not an income problem. Easier to say when he's facing a couple with 5 financed cars for 2 drivers, a monthly movie late fee bill, and restaurant and beauty salon habits to astound. But I know it's true for us, too.
As I've said before, there is a long list of things for which we don't spend that financial gurus will list as possible expenditures to reduce or eliminate:
- Gym memberships
- Car payments
- Cable TV
- Theater movies, concerts, etc.
- DVD subscription services
- Salon hair care
- Regular restaurant and fast food meals
- Daily/weekly Coffee shop visits
- Expensive cuts of meat
- Boxed cereal
- Vacations
We have always limited spending on
- Newspaper and magazines
- Soda, beer, ice cream, packaged snacks...
- Clothing and shoes
- Kids' activities
- Gifts
But it doesn't matter, something MORE has got to change.


We believe in tithing/charitable giving, and even though I admit to struggling with follow-through occasionally, try not to look at that as "optional," or "eliminatable."
Other expenses are pretty necessary... Water, garbage, electricity, insurances, and the house...
The house. Right now the mortgage payment, including taxes and insurance, is over 35% of our income. This is about the amount that's recommended for all housing expenses, including utilities. But I can't change that right now either. Our banker is watching rates to see if they fall low enough to warrant refinancing.
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Soccer clothes double as costumes for recent church Harvest Carnival. All clothes & even the princess' shoes are from Goodwill |
The kids love to find bargains at Goodwill and other second-hand stores, so our clothing expenses are low. Shoes can add up, but we try to limit the expense there, too, shopping for bargains, and only buying shoes to cover basic need.
Gift giving is a tough one, as I am a giver. Our kids have always received one Santa gift and one parent gift (usually a book or two) at Christmas. I don't need to spend a lot, but I really do like to be able to give each person a gift they'll especially love. Even making gifts usually costs something... and multiplied times 10 family members... Well, you can do the math.
We cut sports to school-sponsored choices only a few years ago, and have always limited the kids to usually one sport, occasionally 2, per year for family-life's sake.
We pay the kids' school sports fees, but this year, they have taken on paying for their own equipment and shoes. They also pay for activities, like church retreats. Their money comes from jobs or birthday gifts.
Pet expenses are difficult this year, too. We're lengthening the span between vet visits and looking for less expensive ways to get them their essential vaccinations and to keep fleas under control. Thankfully, they're a very healthy lot. We have too many, but they've been here so long, I don't feel it'd be responsible or in the animals' best interests to try to find them new homes at this point. They don't have the cheapest food, but not nearly the most expensive either. I try to weigh nutrition and cost to strike the best balance.
Now we're down to the people-food and household supplies. We buy about half the overall amount of meat we used to, and a small fraction of the amount of beef. We rarely buy ice cream any more. I'm sure there are a few treats we grab now and then that could be cut out. We buy cleaning supplies in bulk, and often use the cleaners that come in concentrate form, so get diluted and a little lasts a long time.
A difficult thing for me to do was suspend our Full Circle Farm membership. Even though the quality and freshness of the fruits and vegetables were top notch, and it was fun to try new veggies, we weren't getting the quantity of things we needed for the money we were spending. For $42 a week, I was getting a smattering of things meant to be in 'family-size' quantities, but more suitable for 4 than for 9. I could customize my order, but even doubling some things while eliminating others was still not meeting our needs in the right ways. Pieces of fruit delivered in 4 or 5-piece lots was laughable here.
Because of the smallish quantities of new-to-us items, I was letting things go too long before finding the right recipe that would stretch them for us, so they'd deteriorate.
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It's not quite as bad as last year, when the power was out. |
This is not a popular level, but everyone is acclimating and learning to wear socks and sweatshirts.
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Sad, embarrassing, and GROSS |
I don't think these steps I've discussed will make up for our budget deficit, but pennies count now, and every little effort can help. I don't think I've helped anyone discover any new big ideas with this series, and I know I don't feel I've found our answer yet. If I do... I promise to share.
laxsupermom · 699 weeks ago
You must be at a very low rate if your banker hasn't encouraged you to refinance. We've been waiting on closing for our refinance for about a month. Rates are so low right now. We're getting a 3.25% rate so it didn't make sense for us not to do the refi. We're actually shortening our loan by a few years and still making a lower payment. When closing finally happens, we'll be looking at a bit of breathing room in our monthly budget. It had gotten awfully tight this year.
RHome410 71p · 699 weeks ago
JC coldat70 · 699 weeks ago
I'm going to be as brutally honest as you know I sometimes am, so if it's too much feel free not to post this: Not tripling your Full Circle order to get the right amount of lovely produce on a tight budget makes sense. There's really nothing wrong with the conventionally farmed, shipped in produce, however much better the locally and naturally farmed stuff is, but when the luxuries you're trimming from your budget are meat, shoes and pet expenses for non-new pets, you *are* in the class of people who should allow themselves to receive. Charity begins at home. The amount you give to do your share to support your church is a necessity unless your church is really well off, but giving cash to charities and going without to do so is something you could also trim. For instance, you could work on an estate bequest for the future. You could do more time contributions and fewer monetary contributions, or undertake a family charitable project that gives you more bang for the buck. That kind of thing. Not give less, but conserve more cash. Tithing is worthy. Doing so when you don't have enough to pay your very reasonable, thrifty and necessary bills, is not.
RHome410 71p · 699 weeks ago
Cherish · 698 weeks ago
I try not to keep ziploc bags on hand, because they get used more than needed. We use tupperware containers or jars for any kind of snack or leftover. We also try to never use paper towels. I would rather grab an old towel to clean up spills or dry hands. Perhaps you could try cloth napkins or keeping a stack of washcloths where the paper towels normally reside?
I use an old cookie sheet on top of casserole dishes for baking instead of foil. Good luck cutting back! It's hard to implement new habits.
My recent post Christmas pies?